I’m sorry, it’s cancer: How to give up hope yet

Nicole Staudinger received at the age of 32 years, the diagnosis of breast cancer. How she managed it, to deal with the disease, and how you never hope has lost, tells the story in a guest post.

Yes, I was the one with the cancer.

The will always stick to me and that’s okay. “Fall. Get up. Crown. Go on.“ There is hardly a sentence fills me with more aggression than this. Because I heard him just sooo often. And the set is not bad, there are just situations in which he sounds like a cynical Phrase. And with phrases I can’t even.

You must also be desperately sad and angry

When I was in chemotherapy, there were days in which I was existing crown not long ago was don’t give a shit. But for me to enter therapy itself was probably heavier than the breast cancer. The realization that there are things that are really bad. And that you can be also sad, desperate and angry. Even today, after almost four years, I am sometimes still angry about it.

I believe this is an essential part of resilience. To be able to his own feelings to admit to. Because only then are we self-determined. Then we can say to ourselves: “Okay, today you’re angry. All day!“

It is a conscious decision! And we’ll see tomorrow.

Tomorrow it must go further

But what prevents us, our feelings allow? Of course we can with your fingers to others and say: “I always have to be strong!” Especially if we get from other, often to hear: “You’re so strong, you can do this.”

Yes, but heavily to be allowed to be weak. You Are Allowed To. I may. Everyone is allowed to. What’s important is that it goes in the morning. And that the can Today, nothing for Yesterday.

And at the same time you must admit that there are things that are just shit! Most of which we cannot change but unfortunately. The Trump we can no longer get away easily. On the weather we have no influence. On the many bad news we get all day via news Ticker will be sent.

To The Person

Nicole Staudinger was 32 when she went with the blow skill seminars for women independently. Shortly after the founding of the company, the mother of two was diagnosed with breast cancer. With chemotherapy, the desire came to Write. With their debut “Breasts due to circumstances,” was to make you an overnight best-selling author. Today, Staudinger has recovered and according to the “Repartee Queen” appears on the 1. March, the third plant “pop-up Queen” in the Knaur publishing house.

You can’t change what happened, but how to handle it

But alone this fact, that there are things we can not change at the same time the realization that there are things out there which we can change. Whether it is raining, to determine, not you, but how do you rate the rain for that. At the beginning of the year I was with my three men (two of them are my children, don’t worry!) in the Disneyland in Paris. Because it was our dream, and dreams can be fulfilled!

We had three days and 2 ¾ it has rained. Time, it was a constant rain, sometimes rain, sometimes hail. The drizzle seemed to us like the height of summer. We had two options: Either we had something that we are unable to influence the short trip, make a mess of. Or we could accept the rain and try to make the Best of it.

“Now, be honest? When were we the last Time sooo long in the fresh air when it rains?“ – “Mom, I think.” It was true. And I tell you what: nothing happened. Well, we were wet. But is that a bad thing? Nope. We had three wonderful days and moments that would not have existed without the rain Be it that I stand with my Little twenty minutes in each other’s arms under a canopy, or are we to jump to fourth through puddles. We waited on the sun. We had in the rain fun.

The new book “pop-up Queen” by Nicole Staudinger is on 1. March 2018 Knaur-Verlag, to appear.

No day comes back

Yes, I learned the hard way by cancer. No day comes back. Not a Moment, not even for a second. Nothing. And the only thing we, as healthy people are committed to, is to enjoy it. Because nothing of what we have, is, of course, or carved in stone.

17. June 2014, broke my world with the words: “I’m sorry, this is in half cancer”. Everything until then had been important to me and sure had appeared, was gone. The Morning, let alone the years after that were uncertain.

Today I know: The you at every! The only thing we have with certainty is Today. With rain or sun! No matter. And if you don’t ward still grateful, or you Worry about the Tomorrow or the day after Tomorrow did, then the wasted minutes. And don’t come back.

In each one of us to stand-up Queen. Strictly speaking, because we have no other choice. We only have one life to live. And usually that’s not so bad!