The contents
The dangers of holiday romance
Use holiday romance
How to finish holiday romance?
Last summer some people will be remembered not only warm sea, beautiful nature views, which managed to visit, but the current resort novel. Women and men of all lights go on vacation not only to relax but also to catch that same feeling of love that can overtake the sea. The goal is hidden, and the ensuing relationship to be attributed to accidental.
What is dangerous and useful holiday romance, can you easily break a relationship and how easy it is to relive that time will tell in the material.
The dangers of holiday romance
The resort seems attractive all — surrounding nature, the sea, the sun, the satellite, who’s holding your hand, looking you in the sunset. In this lies the main danger of the novel, the ensuing vacation. The fact that people possesses passion, love, which has no relation to reality. Most often the holiday romance does not end there, leaving only pleasant memories of time well spent together.
Often people dream of the sequel to that is also no good will not result. A man and a woman can think about the future together, sometimes ready to move. But this is only a temporary whim, say psychologists. The most frequent outcome of such decision — a gap that will come when people will face reality. Unfortunately, summer romance is only good in the summer, for a short time, when the feelings still bring pleasure.
A joint life has nothing to do with this, because at the resort you are burdened by any obligations, the need to wash dishes, clean the house, work and earn money, in the end, it is also not necessary. In an attempt to prolong a holiday romance and find happiness with the person you are running the risk to burn yourself, get frustrated, and remember, as a rule, these feelings and not the ease and love that was experienced previously.
Besides, in the South of the Russian girls never think that men are attractive. Southerners have a habit to look beautiful, to give gifts and flowers to drive to restaurants. It sets the atmosphere of the resort towns! In an attempt to prolong the relationship and find out something more about his chosen women may face with their wives and even others who are fascinated with them beauties. Therefore, at the resort, if you want romance, you need to understand that all relationships are mostly temporary.
If you have a family, it is undoubtedly a holiday romance will affect her. To hide, most likely it will not work. Indeed, you’ll be back in love and your wife or your husband remember how you met, and will be suspected of treason. But if communicating with someone you met on the resort, will continue in ordinary life, we are bound to face unnecessary problems.
Danger lurks in the case, if you intend to continue the dialogue. In the past people have corresponded through letters, and now everything is much easier — cell phones, instant messengers, social network… But it can also give disappointing because you’ll get used to the person your communication, you can even call it a real novel. Here goes the jealousy, the disbelief, the tears at night. After all, you don’t know what your summer romantic, with whom he spends time while you slowly continue to fall in love with his chosen one. Virtual communication is nothing more than an illusion of a relationship that gives you a false sense of belonging to a particular person. You are stuck in a new rut, not able to get out of this web.
Use holiday romance
Of course, from the resort of the novel has benefits from a psychological point of view. If you approach this as a relationship that is free of obligations, not imposed on the partner, not to build plans for future together with her three children, then the person will be an incomparable experience. Holiday romance in its purest form is love, emotions, lots of feelings and unforgettable memories. Even without continue holiday romance ended right, a good in itself.
Why is the resort so want to surrender to those feelings? The environment itself is conducive to such. Sea, beautiful nature, the beach, the lack of domestic problems, violent fantasies, handsome-southerners… the Tale, not life!
By the way, if you are deeply married, it is you a holiday romance, too, will benefit. But we are not talking about communication with strangers and the resumption of relations and the return of passion with her husband. Worth at least once a year to send their children to grandparents or nannies to fly for a week together in a hot country, to feel the freedom from obligations. Psychologists believe that such holidays will test your senses, regain the love and even can save you from divorce.
How to finish holiday romance?
Holiday romance, as we found out, good in that case, if it ends as it began. Getting should give positive emotions, so just to dot our “I”. No, we do not offer on the first day to declare: “the Relationship will only last for a week”. But you must understand that this affair is temporary. It does not need to try to control something, correct your partner, to demand from him what exactly you want. Relax, stop being the “iron lady” or a man who used to hold in your fist. Release the desire to continue the relationship after the holiday, after all, if not destiny, then any attempt to anything good will not.
According to statistics, continued have only 12 per cent of holiday novels, less than five percent over the bond of the Union stamp in the passport. Just imagine what are your chances! Of course, in the summer of love, you can meet your soul mate, this, too, should not be denied. But I think you’ll understand it the first time, because kinship is felt with a first date. You must have similar interests, views on life, family, children, life. However, to understand this fully you will be able only with cohabitation, not otherwise.
But how to get out of holiday romance and don’t lead to tragic consequences? For example, goodbye, and take his (her) phone number, but give incorrect. This will allow the partner never reach you. Say goodbye mentally with the chosen one and never make the same mistake — do not call, do not write.
Secondly, do not forget about contraception. A lot of resort novels end with either abortion or the birth of children. If it’s not a serious relationship, why such sacrifice?
If the same relationship began to develop further and to blame the other person, never take the initiative, as you would not want to. First, allow yourself to calm down, to calm the passions, return to the usual rhythm of life. Maybe after a month or two you will realize that it was nothing more than a hobby, and continue you don’t need to.
Widely known is the fact that love at a distance becomes stronger, and love cannot withstand separation. Therefore, when the resort romance that should grow into something more, you should feel a strong connection with your partner. If so, the depth of the feelings that overwhelm you, will surprise you. However, it is not necessary here to beat up on the partner, demanding to see, to talk, to move etc. Do not rush things, because your partner might not feel the same, love takes time. Suddenly you will get cold in a few weeks? If not, then most likely you are in a new amazing adventure called “love”.