We always strive to move forward, sometimes forgetting to relax and give yourself some attention. Instead of make, to perform and to let go of unpleasant feelings, it is now fashionable to carry everything up.
We think that we should ignore emotions and the fact that we pretend they are not – should make them go away. The truth is, denial can solve the problem. To push our feelings aside is to keep yourself in a constant state of stress and discomfort.
A psychotherapist and a licensed social worker Sean Grover for a long time, have studied, in some places hiding repressed emotions. In their research, the grower found that different negative emotions are manifested physically. This phenomenon is called “somatization” — the tendency to experience psychological discomfort in the form of physical symptoms.
These bodily signs are called “psychosomatic symptoms” which cause or aggravated by mental factors such as internal conflict and stress.
Of course, not all pain and discomfort we have been experiencing are psychosomatic. But since Grover has studied the bodily reactions of their clients to stress became apparent recurring patterns.
It turned out that some suppressed emotions when they are transformed into bodily reactions, manifested in the same places – again and again.
Keep in mind that at this stage, the psychosomatic reactions are not an exact science.
1. Lower back: anger.
The lower back is the place where suppressed anger. If you experience back pain for no apparent reason, this may be a consequence of your experiences.
To get rid of this symptom will learn how to work on their feelings and to resolve conflicts as they arise.
2. Stomach: fear.
When you are scared, your stomach and intestines have a tendency to strain. Here’s how we get phrases like “Stomach cramped in fear.”
The more you suppress your fears, the more physical effects you are likely to get. When you are nervous, it is much better to acknowledge your disorder and talk to your loved one, or to pour out emotions on paper or even in the social network.
Grover explains, “the better you will be able to Express the fear in words, the less it will stay in the body”.
3. Heart and chest: “broken heart”.
Yeah, turns out “broken heart” is not just an abstract statement. You can feel it physically.
Some of the clients of Grover found that after releasing the pain, for example, during crying, the stress on the human stress has finally subsided, even when no doctor and medicines are unable to help them.
If the pain in the heart and chest has no obvious source of discomfort may be psychosomatic.
4. Headache: the loss of control.
You can’t control everything in life. In fact, attempting to do so can only make you feel worse emotionally and give you a whole bunch of headaches.
Let go and accept what is beyond your control. It will ease this unpleasant symptom.
5. The tension in the neck and shoulder congestion.
If you suffer from tension in my neck and shoulders, which has no apparent reason, perhaps you are just overloaded and overworked. This is one of the most common psychosomatic symptoms of stress.
To alleviate stress, pay attention to what you can and what can not cope. Don’t be afraid to say “no”, ask for support or share duties and responsibilities with others when you feel overwhelmed. Your body will thank you.
6. Fatigue: the grudge.
When you keep in yourself the bitterness and resentment, most likely, you deal more damage yourself than the people you hate.
This anger does not allow you to live in the moment and it drains you. Focusing on those who have wronged you, you will run out of power. Instead, try to focus on forgiveness and development.
7. Numbness: psychological trauma.
People tend to suppress their feelings and even memories, when an event is too traumatic for them. Heard it all: “Oh, don’t remind me”.
But if we don’t analyse our memories and experiences, it can cause numbness and even paralysis of the face new pain or danger.
The best way to get through injury – first take it and then sort through and make practical conclusions.
8. Insomnia: anxiety because of the changes.
Events that change lives – good and bad – can have a radical effect on our sleep.
More stress is felt when your life is constantly changing whether it surprises or even a period of significant personal growth, says Lifter.
Learn to accept these changes, write about it or talk about them with each other and don’t suppress feelings.
Have you noticed these feelings and sensations?