How to Increase Your Sex Drive During Menopause, According to an OB-Gyn

If you are currently going through menopause, you are familiar with the changes going on in your body. Menopause can cause hot flashes, night sweats, menopausal anxiety, weight gain, and low libido. These symptoms are completely natural, but can also feel overwhelming, especially when they impact your sex drive. Luckily, there are ways to help reignite your libido and maintain intimacy with your partner.

Dr. Barbara Taylor, a retired OB-GYN and author of “Menopause: Your Management Your Way…Now and for the Rest of Your Life,” says it’s natural for a decreased sex drive to cause feelings of low self-esteem for many women. “It’s a feeling of inadequacy,” she tells SheKnows. “And regardless of whether it manifests emotionally, psychologically, or physically, it constitutes mental health. What’s worse is when a woman doesn’t even know why she has no sex drive. That’s where my menopause education can make such a huge difference.” Read below for everything you need to know about sex during menopause, including why low libido happens and how to get your sex drive back.

What happens to a woman’s libido during menopause?

“Sex hormones control the sex drive of all animals, including humans,” says Dr. Taylor. “The primary sex-drive hormone differs for men and women. For men, it’s testosterone. For women, it’s estrogen. Men never lose all their testosterone, but women have menopause, which is a process during which their estrogen decreases.” So, essentially, when a woman’s estrogen declines, so does her sex drive.

What steps can women take to help with intimacy?

Don’t be shy about discussing your libido concerns with your healthcare provider. They’re there to help and can provide valuable insights and recommendations. Many factors, including hormonal imbalances, can affect your sex drive during menopause. Your doctor can offer solutions tailored to your specific needs.

Menopause can be a rollercoaster of hormonal changes, and your partner may be feeling the effects too. The first step to addressing changes in your libido is open and honest communication. Start a gentle conversation about your feelings, desires, and concerns. Remember, your partner cares about your happiness and satisfaction in the relationship. Intimacy is more than just sexual activity, it’s also the ability to have tough conversations and bare your soul to someone. 

Now that you’ve had this conversation, there are a few things you can do to both increase your libido and help make sex more pleasurable and comfortable. 

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